{"id":1609,"date":"2008-06-03T01:25:00","date_gmt":"2008-06-02T15:25:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/mrpitcher.wordpress.com\/2008\/06\/03\/the-platinum-rule\/"},"modified":"2008-06-03T01:25:00","modified_gmt":"2008-06-02T15:25:00","slug":"the-platinum-rule","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.razchorev.com\/newme\/the-platinum-rule\/","title":{"rendered":"The Platinum Rule"},"content":{"rendered":"

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The Platinum Rule<\/span><\/b>
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We are all different individuals, aren\u2019t we? As such, we must demand individual treatment. We have our own way of processing, thinking, and behaving. We respond differently to different situations, <\/span>Raz Chorev<\/span><\/i> explains why\u2026.
<\/b><\/span>by Raz Chorev<\/span><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

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We have all heard of the Golden Rule and many people aspire to live by it. The Golden Rule is not a magic potion. Think about it: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” The Golden Rule implies the basic assumption that other people would like to be treated the way that you would like to be treated.<\/span> Really? This means all people are like you! All like to be treated the same way. This is confusing, though. If I\u2019ll treat everyone like I\u2019d like them to treat me, that\u2019s cool! But then they would treat me like THEY want to be treated! Maybe they\u2019re like to be handled with a lot of emotions, reassurance, and physical contact (hugs and sympathy all over their faces.). Maybe they like to be given hard facts and figures, or just a summary of an event. I might not like that sort of treatment, because I\u2019m different to them!<\/span><\/p>\n

The Platinum Rule suggests: “Treat others the way they want to be treated.” Ah hah! What a difference. The Platinum Rule accommodates the feelings of others. The focus of relationships shifts from “this is what I want, so I’ll give everyone the same thing” to “let me first understand what they want and then I’ll give it to them.”<\/span><\/p>\n

Steven Covey, in his classic book says:\u201d seek to understand, not to be understood\u201d. Try to understand the type of person in-front of you, before you impose your personality and preferences onto them. It won\u2019t work!<\/span><\/p>\n

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There are many different (although very similar) \u201cpersonality tests\u201d available. Some very popular like Myers Briggs, and Wilson Learning System. There is also the DISC profiling, and others. All of these systems, divide the human race to 4 major groups. They call them different names, however essentially they are very close.
The following is a system I\u2019ve learned from Jack Daly, which is based on the Wilson Learning system, and Tony Alessandra, the author of The Platinum Rule:<\/span><\/p>\n

The goal of The Platinum Rule is personal chemistry and productive relationships. You do not have to change your personality. You do not have to roll over and submit to others. You simply have to understand what drives people and recognize your options for dealing with them.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Jack Daly divides The Platinum Rule behavioral preferences into four basic styles:<\/span><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n